Did you miss Movement Debrief live yesterday? Though much more fun live, I have a video of what we discussed below.
This debrief was quite fun, as we had an impromptu viewer q&a. Thank you Alan Luzietti for the awesome questions! If you follow along live on Facebook or Youtube, I will do my best to answer any questions you ask.
Yesterday we discussed the following topics:
Why you should emphasize sagittal plane activities longer than you think
How to coach exercises to maximize client learning and compliance
Why detaching from your client encounters makes you a better clinician
Viewer Q&A – “centering from the chaos” & TFL Inhibition
Lastly, if you want the acute:chronic workload calculator I spoke about, click here.
I have this thing when someone uses an uncommon descriptor. When this occurs, I typically try to use an even more ridiculous descriptor.
I especially like to apply this method to wish someone a better day than I. For example:
Joe Blow: “You have a good day.”
Me: “You have an even better day.”
Glorious is a bit more difficult to top, but in the blink of an eye I was able to respond:
“You have a splendiferous day.”
Stupid? Yes. Did I get a laugh and a smile? Absolutely.
Me doing this silly little thing with people is irrelevant. What is relevant is the speed that I was able to apply this quip.
I spouted this word quickly because it fit a common pattern. Pattern recognition is huge in athleticism, medicine, and a multitude of other life facets.
But how often do we think of pattern recognition when we interact with individuals? Being able to differentiate what both verbal and nonverbal communication one uses is critical in ensuring a favorable interaction with someone.
And if your patient or client doesn’t like you? Fugetaboutit.
Let’s look at a very common pattern that if you allow one to persist in will sabotage any connection you are trying to make.
The Double Cross
When you are chatting with someone you ever see this?
In body language realms, crossing of the arms and/or legs generally signifies one is closed off from further discussion. This position subconsciously protects several vital organs and defend from threats.
Change your body position – I will often go and sit right next to them. This posture conveys I am aligned with them. Friends sit side-by-side after all.
Touch – I will touch their arm.
Ask – Ask if they have a question, or what their thoughts are.
Joke – say a funny quip that you have in your repertoire. [Note: If you don’t have a joke set, get one]
Ask if they are cold – Sometimes people cross their arms because they are cold. Regardless of if they are cold, you will redirect attention to their body language. If they are not cold (like living in AZ), they will often change their arm posture. If they are cold, you can change the temp in your office.
Reach – Have them reach for something or give them something to hold onto (a glass of water works great. If I am TNE’ing, I’ll hand them one of my markers).
Open up – make sure when you talk to them you are conveying an open posture as much as possible. Palms facing them and help reel them in.
Change the subject – If you see someone cross their arms when you mention a subject, it becomes clear very quickly that they don’t feel comfortable talking about it yet. Redirect.
To Sum Up
Nonverbal communication is something we all must think about during all of our interactions, and likely plays a huge role in building rapport and buy-in.
Next time someone closes you off, try one of my above strategies and let me know what you think.
Any thoughts or strategies you use to get people to open up? Comment below.